Then there’s this pressure to label yourself a certain way-masc, femme, jock, among others. Many gay men spend a lot of time in the gym hoping to look like ancient Greek gods someday. It’s no surprise that so many of us struggle with body image issues.
They cover up their discrimination with “sassiness”. Hundreds of men rejected and ignored me, or even mocked me for having the nerve to ask them out.įrom my observations over the years, gay men can be very unforgiving when it comes to judging different body types that people have-even more so than straight men. I did not yet realize that once people saw my picture-my round, grinning face, thick glasses, oversized T-shirt and pants-they immediately marked me as undesirable. I was ready to dive into Indonesia’s gay culture head first, looking for love or a one-time companion to get me through the night. When I came out, I was excited to live in a time with plenty of dating apps for people like me to meet one another. Should that person apologize for being plus-size in this world? Should I? The last profile bio I came across just broke my heart. They made me question why I decided to redownload the dating app time and again. Those lines were taken straight from bios of Grindr profiles that I read this morning.
